My Life with kidney cancer: Cancer is a word not a sentence.

My Life with kidney cancer: Cancer is a word not a sentence.: Cancer is a word not a sentence. Cancer is a word not a sentence. Cancer is a word not a sentence.                                       ...

Cancer is a word not a sentence.

Cancer is a word not a sentence.
Cancer is a word not a sentence.
Cancer is a word not a sentence.
                                                    Please read the above and never ever forget, Cancer is a word not a sentence. The very moment that i was told that i had cancer my life as i knew stopped.
Panic mode immediately set in, panic mode and emergency mode, and the shock waves that created pushed my family and friends into panic and emergency mode.
                                                                                                                                                            
Upon reflection, i think the best advice that i can give to a person who has been diagnosed with cancer would be, after the initial shock please please ! try your very best to continue to live the life that you know, that you live every single day.

If you have followed my blog, you will know that i when i was diagnosed with cancer i fell apart. And that fear took over my life which in turn turned my life into a living hell.
And all the negativity that took over my life sent shock waves to my family and friends and caused them even more upset that i felt i had already imposed on them.I feel that i also pushed my family into emergency mode.

Every time i see the word survivor in connection with cancer, or a person refers to me as a survivor it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
At first the word survivor gave me strength, made me feel strong, now i think that the word survivor has a time and a place and not to be used in conjunction with cancer.
Do you understand ? i will try and explain....
Lets say a plane crashes and if anybody on board survives they are labelled a survivor which is right because to be truthful you are expected to be killed in a plane crash.
When somebody is referred to has a cancer survivor, well to me it makes me feel that everybody else with cancer is expected to die.
Ive been flicking through my dictionary....thriving cancer ? to thrive means to do well, to have a good quality of life, but to me thriving cancer does not sound right.

So i will just say in the future i am living well and i feel that living well has the right meaning for myself at this moment in time.

One thing i have learnt in my recovery so far is if you set your goals to high you can cause yourself disappointment which in turn turns into negativity. So always remain positive, you know positivity is the message i try to get across.

 Myself 8 weeks after operation to

                                   remove tumour from my right kidney.

Positivity heals.

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